Listening to Your Sexual Body for Mindful Intimacy

Understanding the difference between horny, and inner power.

In our society, listening to our bodies is often seen as low priority. We are instead told to listen to others or go against our inner self, which in turn creates an imbalance within ourselves. But what happens when we tune out the programming we are given and tune into the body that we reside in?

We as humans are deeply intuitive beings, ones who can easily access different versions of ourselves when needed. When we are fully aroused - especially women - we turn on our Sexual Bodies. Blood starts to circulate into our womb, opening us up to prepare for intimacy. Our bodies become highly sensitive, and we are literally "turned on". This process can be slower for some, especially those of us who have suffered from mental, physical, or spiritual trauma.

When our body takes a traumatic hit, our cells rush to protect us by keeping this memory "locked down" which in turn affects us sexually. This can come out as low libido, non-lubricated lady bits, or even disgust when thinking of being sexual. When being intimate with a romantic partner (or partners), true challenges can arise.

Sexual intimacy with a partner can bring us closer to them, where you can become completely tuned into that person and feel what they feel. True sexual intimacy is a connection to another human, and having the right person is critical when you are going through this process of listening to your inner sexual self. Casual sex is often shown as easy, fun, and portrayed as an action you will simply get over as soon as it's done. You cannot make sex casual, it will forever be an exchange of ENERGY, which never dies, it only transfers to another.

So how can we tap in to this divine source to be our fully sensual self? How do we know when it's our actual body speaking versus the mind?

Listening to your body is much easier said than done. But it starts with having a practice that works for you. Waking up in the morning and stretching, making sure your body is hydrated and fed (you just went 6-8 hours without drinking or eating, feed it!), and is still long enough for your body to feel comfortable to release these signals into your conscious mind. During stress, the body suppresses certain signals because it doesn't feel safe doing so. Honoring this truth and allowing space for your body to feel safe is key to listening to it. With time, practice, and the right romantic partner, you can easily access this pleasurable state and unlock the inner sensual being that you have always been. That we all are.

What is the Sexual Body?

Becoming aware of your sexual body first begins by understanding that you are a sensual, sexual being here on Earth to feel pleasure. You are here to experience everything good about having a physical body, and it starts by diving head-first into that energy, the energy that was always yours. True, it may be locked away for several reasons, but it never goes away, it only represses. The sexual body is awakened, fully connected to the Universe and self.

Regulation of the Parasympathetic and Central Nervous System

The regulation of our central nervous system (CNS) is the biggest step in getting back in tune with our bodies. Going through life, we come under stress in the forms of work, paying bills, children, lovers, etc. And as a woman, unmet needs are a common occurrence, which makes it vital to regulating our parasympathetic and central nervous systems. One of the quickest ways to center yourself and help calm your nervous system is through breathwork.

Breathwork comes in different forms, so start by researching to find ways that best fit you. Play around, and see how each different type of breath works for you and your body.

Connecting Deeply with Nature

We are souls having a human experience. To embrace the full experience, we need to connect with the land we live on. This is more than going on a walk on a concrete path occasionally. Deep connection, like the connections we desire, starts with leaping into the unknown. When is the last time you walked without music, to listen to the sounds of the Earth around you? When is the last time you have laid in the grass and felt your body bond with what is below you? Being bonded to nature helps us understand the true connection that we have with the world around us, which in turn, helps us understand the true connection that we NEED to have with others, especially our sexual partner(s). So, take those shoes off, and ground yourself to the Earth.

Get Out of Your Head During Intercourse

When opening up to our partners, it's common to get stuck in your thoughts, even when engaging in something as sacred as intercourse.

Does this person like my body? Will they notice my imperfections? Do they like me?

The thoughts that circulate in our minds can be detrimental to our sexual experience.

Stop, and feel yourself in the present moment. Is this something that you truly want to be a part of? Is this someone that you want to be bonded with, even after sex is over?

When we engage is something without our minds being aware in the present moment, we lose a bit of the magic. And that is the true purpose of intimacy. To feel that pleasure.

Sexual intimacy is meant for you, it is your experience to feel exactly how you want to feel. Pleasure brings us into the present moment and allows us to be conduits of gratification, that is the human experience. Enjoy this moment, enjoy your person. And yourself.

When you seize this moment and embrace this understanding of intimacy, you start to unlock who you truly are.

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